The number of times I have heard “We had been dating for a few of years, then my partner announced he didn’t want children. It was something we never really spoke about, and I just assumed being the same age we would get round to having a family one day in the future”.
Or, I met my partner in my 20’s and neither of us wanted children. Ten years later I changed my mind and decided I did want children; my partner hadn’t changed his mind. He still didn’t want children and refused to discuss it. We split, I’m now forty is it too late for me?” The answer is maybe but you need to do something about it NOW.
Men on the other hand can have children at any age, look at Rolling Stone Ronnie Wood who had twins at the age of seventy. For ladies however, this is not the case and can be devastating especially if you are forty, have yet to meet a partner and need to meet someone who wants to start a family in the very near future.
My advice is as you date ask your dates questions subtly to find out if they are at the same life stage as you before getting into a relationship only to get your heart broken. Try to get an idea of the lifestyle they want to enjoy in the future, this can reveal so much. Also, dare I say it use your instinct and gut feeling too.
At Sara Eden we guide our clients who want a family through the process, matching similar lifestyles, aspirations and goals and only introduce those who are at a similar life stage too. And if you want a family, you will only meet others who want a family – this is a non-negotiable!
We are very proud to say our oldest Sara Eden mum was fifty when she gave birth. She had frozen her eggs, we introduced her to her partner and now they have a beautiful healthy son they both love and adore.
This is not the norm; they were fortunate to have Sara Eden to help them on their path to love happiness.
If you can identify with any of this talk to us, we just might work our magic make all your dreams come true.
Karen
