Four Golden Rules.
So the kids have grown up and you’ve just returned to the dating scene after being married for years. But, help – dating is a whole different ball game now you’re older.
Well don’t be disheartened just follow my four Golden Rules and make that good first impression, otherwise there will never be a second date. You’d be surprised how easily people can blow it, by saying the wrong thing, wearing the wrong thing or doing the wrong thing.
Where to meet
Choose a mutually convenient venue, lunchtime is good and a snack is better than a large meal – offer to go dutch. Don’t go somewhere too noisy – the cinema and theatre are big NO NO’s for a first date as the whole idea is that you talk to each other, not sit in silence.
What to wear
Something you feel comfortable in is a must! Nothing too tight or revealing and leggings are a definite turn off. Avoid the extremes of your wardrobe business suits are not right unless you have just come from the office. A splash of colour is good – wearing black only can make you look dull.
What to talk about
A good starting point is the other person. Ask them about their family, their work, interests and how they see themselves in the future. But, don’t make it sound like you are interrogating them! For a successful long-term relationship similar goals and aspirations are a must – so how would they see their life in five years time? Always remember to be yourself – don’t try to be someone you are not. If you are nervous be honest and say you’re nervous. Don’t talk endlessly about your ex – believe it or not this is one of the most common reasons for not getting a second date! Don’t talk about politics or religion. Try to find some common ground and the conversation should flow.
How to behave
In my 32 years of matchmaking I am yet to find a man who isn’t attracted by a smile. So smile and enjoy your date! Turn off your mobile phone unless you are genuinely expecting an important phone call and for goodness sake don’t text! Definitely don’t try to pin your date down to a second date before the first date has ended. And don’t act as though you are desperate – this is a big turn off.
Good luck ladies.
Karen X
