It can be hard to be sure that the person you have fallen for is a ‘keeper’, especially if, despite your feelings, something holds you back.
It could be that you have only ever dated one type and even though the one under consideration ticks all your boxes, you know that in the past similar relationships that have felt promising have eventually crashed and burned. Or – and this is equally confusing, you have found someone completely different and your usual guidelines just don’t apply.
I am here to help – these are the qualities we advise daters to look for. They are reliable indicators of a someone who will has what you need:
Genuine Interest – body language and eye contact, responses that are relevant and demonstrate active listening will show you if you have this.
They Share the Conversational Limelight – the balance is equal and the tone is non-judgemental.
Humour and Playfulness – these are crucial, as without levity, especially in the early stages, it is unlikely that there will be the necessary generosity of spirit needed to overcome difficulties when they arise.
Reliability – showing caring and respect. Without such qualities you could be at risk of infidelity and will certainly experience heightened anxiety. Relationships that are successful always have a foundation of trust.
Shared Aspirations – the language and thinking around what you both want for the future needs to show some commonalities if you are to be happy. These are worth watching, as over time they can change – you build them via shared experiences and good communication, which needs to be ongoing.
If you feel your partner has these qualities then you have found your ‘keeper’ – someone resilient, flexible and loving enough to stay and grow with and it’s mutual!
If you are single and can see yourself in any of this, you might want to consider chatting to a Sara Eden expert, who can introduce you to someone just right for you..
Take care x
