You have chosen a profile; the connection has been made and you have spoken to your date and arranged to meet up. The date is in five days’ time.
So far, so good.
Now it’s the day before and neither you nor your date has reached out via text yet, so who should confirm?
We live in modern times, so in theory either of you could so. However, good manners suggests that whoever made the invite should confirm the time and the venue on the day before or early on the morning of the meeting.
What on earth should you say?
Is Hey, u still ok for tmrw nite? enough? We think not. Lose the text speak for a start – it’s juvenile. This is about first impressions – you want to be considered polite, don’t you? (If your date has not retained all the details of the invitation, you could also find yourself in different places feeling like lemons if the text lacks information….)
Be brief, succinct and warm:
Hi there looking forward to seeing you tonight 8pm at Duck and Waffle! Hope you’re hungry!
Hope all is okay with you today – I’ll be at Sexy Fish at 7 tonight waiting for you to join me….
Now, all is fine if your date confirms, but if they can’t make it, you could:
- Ignore them and write them off – there are plenty of others
- Send an irritated text
But neither of those reactions will help your love life flow smoothly, so we recommend something like this, warm, understanding and indicating your continuing interest:
What a shame! I was really looking forward to tonight. Let me know when you’ve delivered that project – we can celebrate then.
Sorry you’ve got the lurgy – let’s get together when you feel better. Take care.
If they don’t reschedule, you’ll know you’ve been given an excuse, but life does get in the way sometimes, so be generous and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Good luck!
